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End The R Word Day

Published on March 31, 2009 by in Advocacy

Today is March 31, 2009.

Today is the day I beg you to End The R Word.

End the stereotypes.

End the hatred.

End the hurt.

End the uneducated use of a word that has absolutely no use in the English language any longer.

Take the pledge and make a difference.

This is the face of my daughter.

This is the face of someone who has been labelled “mentally retarded”.



When I hear the word “retard”, it hurts. You may or may not be talking about my daughter. You may or may not be talking about someone like her. You may be using it in a flippant way, thinking it causes no harm.

Well, you’re wrong.

This word hurts. It stings. It makes parents cringe. It makes individuals with disabilities feel as if all they have worked for in being treated equally has been taken away and landed them right back where they were…retarded.

Take away the pain and sting of this word by eliminating its use.

You can make a difference.

Don’t use the word.

Encourage others to not use the word.

Tell people how offensive it is when you hear it.

Tell them it hurts.

Tell them it demeans.

Tell them it needs to end.

You can do it. I can do it. We can all do it together.

And we will!

“They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.”
-Andy Warhol

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  • the weirdgirl

    I haven't used this word in years. Probably never really used it. My older brother is mentally disabled. I have a horrible story from when I was 5 of being trapped by an older child who asked me over and over if my brother "was a r". That memory still makes me upset.

    I'm sorry I missed the date on this one. I would have posted that story (painful as it is) along with the pledge. It is a horrible word and needs to be expelled from the language!

  • Ruth Moss

    Well said. I have never used the word as an adult and I don't think it – and the hatred that goes along with it – should be part of anyone's vocabulary.

    Your daughter is absolutely beautiful, btw, but I guess you already know that.

  • Hahn at Home

    My daughter is mildly mentally challenged. We removed the word "retard" from our vocabulary a long time ago. And, I call people out when they use it.

    I hear ya'!

  • Rebecca

    Who ever said words never hurt didn't know what they were talking about.

  • Kaylen

    I have been guilty of this.
    I am guilty of saying it. I am guilty of letting my child say it with his friends. I am guilty of allowing my own friends to toss it around.
    I am sorry.
    I am sorry to your daughter – she is adorable and lovely and I would never ever want to hurt her.
    I will do my best to stop the use of this word – your daughter does not deserve to be hurt and insulted for no reason whatsoever. It's such a sad shame that it has been turned into a word that is used so flippantly and in such common use. I hear it much too often…Sorry to you and your family, your daughter, and other beautiful kids who shine like she does.

  • God’s Rock Angel

    She is beautiful! Anyone who labels her the R word needs a kick in the butt! I look after an 8 year old girl with Downs at church and she’s lovely, it takes extra effort to look after her but it’s well worth it.

  • SAIA AND CHAGO

    Ugh. That's heartwrenching, but very well said.

    Wondering what your reaction was to Obama's gaffe on Leno a week or so ago?

  • Eden

    This is an easy pledge to take. It's not in my vocabulary anyway.

  • raz

    i couldn't agree more either. it makes my skin crawl when i hear the word and i will definitely do my part to speak up.

  • Bibliomama

    What a little beauty she is. I have worked in group homes with disabled adults and children, and I have never used the R word in connection with them, but I confess I may have used it flippantly in the past. I will resolve not to do it again.

  • poppycat

    She is so sweet and lovely. I am with you on this one and I will do my part. I feel the same way about "that's so gay" or "your so gay". It makes me want to scream "you should be so lucky you ignorant prick!"

  • chelle

    I couldn't agree more!