If you’ve read my blog for a significant amount of time, you may recall the death of Shellie Ross’ son, Bryson, while she was allegedly on her phone Tweeting. It was determined Bryson’s death did not occur while Shellie was otherwise occupied.

There were many articles written. One of them went viral due to its awesomeness.

I, and many others, called out Shellie’s biggest critic, Madison McGraw before putting the entire thing to rest.

I recall reading Shellie was expecting another son, shortly after Bryson’s death. I was also pregnant with my “second chance” baby and dropped her an email congratulating her. There was no response.

Today, I learned Shellie was arrested for failure to pay child support to two previous children. (That makes five children from four different fathers.) Her current husband won a large amount of money due to a medical situation with his previous wife. He was awarded $800,000 and bought a $500,000 home in cash.

Why Shellie didn’t pay off her (approximately) $50,000 in child support is beyond me. But she paid the price for that decision. Apparently she has made financial restitution to both boys she owed child support on.

Her involvement in either of her oldest boys’ lives varies, depending on which account you choose to believe.

Shellie is once again home, with her school-aged son and her toddler. She has also begun to blog again.

Madison McGraw has been found to have multiple identities online, is divorced and does not have custody of any of her children. She was fired from her job as an ENT and her self-published books have been removed off Amazon.

I have three children by three different people.

Seven years ago, I lost custody of my oldest son. I am behind on his child support and I owe the attorney who represented me more than Shellie owed in child support.

I’m sure Cruella stated numerous times that she was lucky the Shellie/Bryson situation wasn’t the outcome for myself/Bubba.

My marriage failed and I now share custody of my middle child.

I am a non-custodial/joint custody/full custody parent. Financially, we live within our means and I hope to pay off my debts, regardless of how long it takes.

I may not live in a $500,000 home (paid for in cash) but my children need nothing and want very little due to myself and their other parent.

If I did have the means, my debts would come before buying a mansion, etc. but as I said, Shellie has paid for her choices. Much like her husband, Ash’s income pays for a great deal of our budget/needs/life. However, if she were ever ridiculously rich, she would throw my debt a bone.

Shellie Ross has made mistakes.

Madison McGraw has made mistakes.

I have made mistakes.

You have made mistakes.

Own them. Publicly or privately. Own your mistakes, your faults and your poor judgement.

And the next time you want to rip someone apart, especially someone you only know online or in the media, take a look at yourself. Ask if you have any right to judge or point fingers. Ask how you would want to be treated in the same circumstance.

Remember we are all human beings with feelings, flaws and mistakes.